THE PRIVATE NATION ’6: INTESTATE
Essay V of V [READ ESSAY IV]
Terrain. A man holding a duty to himself, transacting on his own behalf for fifteen years, at his own expense. The instrument that kept him alive is the one presenting the bill.
“A trustee shall administer the trust solely in the interests of the beneficiaries.”
Uniform Trust Code § 802(a)
Self-dealing is not theft.
That is the part people get wrong about the doctrine. A trustee who steals is a thief and the law has ordinary words for him. Self-dealing is subtler and, in a sense, worse, because the trustee does not have to take anything. He only has to be on both sides of the transaction.
The breach is structural. It exists in the arrangement, not the outcome. A trustee can self-deal and produce a profit for the beneficiary and the transaction is still voidable, because the duty was never to produce good results. The duty was undivided loyalty, and a man cannot be undividedly loyal to someone while also being the counterparty.
I have been administering a trust since I was twenty-one.
The beneficiary is me. The trustee is also me. And what I have discovered, four essays into this serial, is that the two of us have not been working for the same person.
Here is what the trustee was appointed to do.
Keep him alive. That is the entire instrument. There was no other clause and no one to enforce a broader one, and at twenty-one, in a supply closet, in a caseworker’s office, in an apartment with a folder on the table, that mandate was interpreted the only way it could be interpreted.
Assume the room is unsafe. Assume the disclosure ends things. Assume that whatever is being offered will be withdrawn once the full information is in play, and act accordingly, in advance, every time.
The trustee did that. He did it very well. He is the reason there is anybody here.
I want that on the record before the indictment, because an indictment that pretends the breach produced nothing is dishonest, and this essay is not going to be dishonest about the thing that kept me breathing.
But look at what he was authorized to spend.
Not money. He never touched money. He spent proximity.
Fifteen years of it, in increments too small to notice on any given afternoon. A conversation ended half a step early. A question deflected with a word engineered to close it. A room left before anyone in it could get to the part where they would have had to decide something about me.
That is the transaction. He sold my closeness to other people and bought safety with the proceeds, and he did it without ever once convening a meeting to ask whether the beneficiary wanted the trade.
He is the beneficiary. That is the whole problem. There was no one to ask.
Every morning at eight the trustee makes a disbursement.
One tablet. The same one for over a decade, then a different one since October, smaller, a different color. I held that new one in my palm the first morning and felt my hand resist it, which is a strange thing for a hand to do about an improvement.
The bottle cap clicks dry. The tablet goes chalky at the back of the tongue if the water is late. For fourteen years I took it with juice, because water made me gag and juice did not, and that was simply the arrangement. Since October it goes down with water. I did not decide that. The new tablet is smaller and the old objection stopped applying and one morning I noticed I had been using water for weeks.
Fifteen years of identical mornings. Roughly five thousand five hundred disbursements, alone, before anyone is awake.
That is the trustee’s record. Perfect. Not one missed.
He has never failed to keep me alive. Not once, not for a single day. Everything I am about to say about him has to sit next to that.
I locate the exits.
Not metaphorically. When something begins with a person, some part of me is already mapping how it ends, and not in the way everyone does, not ordinary caution. Specifically. Where the door is. What the sentence would be. How much of me is currently in the room and how fast that could be reduced.
And then, at the first indication, I leave first.
Not always by leaving. Sometimes by staying in the room with less of myself in it, which is the same act performed with better manners. Sometimes by becoming the version of me that is easier to be finished with. There are a dozen ways to exit without moving your feet and I know all of them, and I did not learn them from books.
Here is what it does in the body.
Someone gets close enough to matter and something behind the sternum goes quiet. Not tightening. The opposite. A withdrawal of pressure, a small internal step back, the way a room goes cooler when a door opens somewhere else in the house.
It is not fear. Fear would be information. This is administrative. It happens below the level where I could argue with it, and by the time I notice it has already been executed, and what is left is a man who is warm and present and attentive with a percentage of himself sitting in an account he did not open.
I have felt it at dinner tables. In beds. On the phone with people who have known me twenty years.
I learned it at twenty-one, from a man who knew what he was carrying and did not tell me.
I am not going to write about him. He has taken enough of this and he is not getting an essay. What matters is not what he did. What matters is what the trustee concluded from it, which was: people withhold the thing that would change your decision, and they do it while you are close to them, and therefore closeness is the delivery mechanism.
That is a defensible reading of the evidence.
It is also fifteen years of a man who has never been all the way in a room with anybody.
RELATED SERIALS: TPN ‘1: Jurisdiction of the Self, TPN ‘2: Sovereignty of the Soul, TPN ‘3: PENUMBRA of the Republic, TPN ‘4: Parallelism Anaphora , TPN ‘5: Negro Non Grata
I would like to say that improved.
It did improve. I have grown in the ways a person grows, which is to say I can now name the pattern while it is happening and sometimes decline to run it, and I have relationships in which I am substantially present, and I told my parents, and I write in public about the thing I once could not say in a bedroom.
And I am still not fully in it.
Not with anyone. There is a reserve that does not close, a small percentage held back in a separate account, and I have never once spent it. Fifteen years of accrual in an account I do not draw from and cannot transfer.
That is what I took. Not from other people. From him. From the man the trustee was appointed to protect.
Every ninety days I go and produce evidence.
The tourniquet. The vein she finds without looking, because she has been finding it for fifteen years and knows my arm better than most people know my face. Seventy-two hours, then the portal, then the number.
Undetectable. Again. Still.
That is the quarterly report, filed on schedule, every time. Fifteen years, two tablets, sixty accountings, and not one of them has ever asked the only question that matters, which is what the administration cost the person it was protecting.
He is thirty-six. He has never been all the way in a room with anybody.
Now consider what I have built with the material.
This publication exists because of the diagnosis. Not incidentally. The catalog is substantially the record of what that diagnosis did to a life, examined with more care and more honesty than I have ever brought to a conversation with a person who loved me.
Four essays this week. A supply closet. A folder. A waiting room. A nightstand drawer. I have gone back into every one of those rooms and stayed in them, at length, with total attention, and I have written down what happened in them with a precision I have never once achieved out loud.
I am fully present here.
That is the sentence I did not want to write. I am completely available on a page. The reserve does not apply to prose. Whatever the trustee is protecting, he does not consider a reader a threat, because a reader cannot leave in a way that costs anything, and a reader cannot ask a follow-up question, and a reader is never in the room.
So I built a place where I can be entirely honest and entirely safe at the same time.
It is a description of the most efficient exit I have ever constructed, and I have been calling it a body of work.
The doctrine is precise about what happens next.
A self-dealing transaction is voidable at the beneficiary’s election. He can undo it. He can also affirm it, and if he affirms it with full knowledge of the breach, the transaction stands, and the trustee is discharged as to that transaction.
Full knowledge. That is the operative phrase. An affirmation given in ignorance is no affirmation at all.
For fifteen years I did not have full knowledge. I could not have elected anything. The trustee was running the estate and reporting to nobody and the beneficiary did not know there was an estate.
He knows now. This essay is the accounting he was never given.
And here is where it stops.
I could end this by voiding the transaction. Declaring that I am done, that the reserve is closing, that this serial was the reckoning and the reckoning worked. That would be the ending an essay wants, and it would be counterfeit, because I do not know that and cannot know it from inside a document.
I could end it the other way. Affirm the whole arrangement. Say that the trustee was right, that the exits are a reasonable response to what happened at twenty-one, that a man who has survived this long by a specific method does not owe anyone an apology for the method.
Also available. Also a lie, or at least an unearned peace.
The truth is that I am a fiduciary who has just finished documenting his own breach in public, at length, with real care, and the documenting is the thing I do instead of the other thing. I cannot tell from in here whether this essay is the correction or the most recent instance.
Both readings survive everything I know about myself.
So the transaction is not voided and it is not affirmed. It is disclosed, which is the one act a self-dealing trustee is actually required to perform, and which I have now performed, and which does not by itself cure anything.
The estate is open.
Nobody signed for any of it.
Let that be enough — for now.
AUTHOR’S NOTE
I have written five essays this week about rooms I was in and could not fully occupy, and I wrote every one of them alone, at a desk, with total access to myself.
The irony was available to me from the first day and I kept it at arm’s length until the last essay required it, which is its own small demonstration of the pattern.
What I did not expect was the water.
Fourteen years of juice because water made me gag, and then a smaller tablet arrived in October and the objection quietly stopped applying, and I did not notice for weeks. Something in me updated without asking permission and without filing a report. It was not the fear. The fear has not moved. But something did.
I do not know what to do with that either.
I know that I found it while writing rather than while living, and that finding it in writing was easier, and that the ease is the finding.
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The serial concludes with SELF-DEALING